In His Time…

…there is perfect peace.


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Shun a Gossip

One who degrades another person is a fool, and a man of understanding will make himself deaf to his words(Proverbs 11:12).
When people feel good about themselves, they have no need to enhance their self-evaluation by berating others. Those who do so are exposing their own poor self-worth and to what extremes they will go in order to achieve any feeling of worth.
Solomon points out that the one who listens to such prattle is no better than the speaker. Why would anyone waste time listening to such gossip and slander unless it served some purpose? A person with good self-esteem would turn a deaf ear to such talk. Furthermore, one who listens to gossip provides the talker with an audience, thereby actually encouraging more gossip.
Solomon calls a wise person “a man of understanding.” The wisdom here consists of understanding the psychology of gossips. They need to berate others for their own self-worth, and they are not above lying to disparage others. You can be certain that the person who speaks badly about someone else to you will eventually speak badly about you to someone else. The only approach, therefore, is to completely shun a gossip.
In his epochal work on lashon hara (gossip), the Chofetz Chaim states that the transgression of listening to lashon hara is every bit as serious as speaking it. If someone tries to make a listener out of you, leave, or at least politely say that you are not interested in the subject.


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Eat to Satisfy Your Soul

A righteous person eats to satisfy his soul (Proverbs 13:25).
When children have poor table manners, their parents will likely reprimand them and say: “You’re eating like an animal.”
While animals lack the finesse of Emily Post, we can say this much for them: they eat only for their bodily needs. Animals do not overeat, nor do they indulge in the pleasures of eating the way that humans do. Titillating the palate is a uniquely human obsession.
People who sincerely believe they were put on earth solely in order to serve God will eat in order to sustain life and to have the energy to carry out their assignment on earth. While they may enjoy eating, they neither indulge themselves nor constantly seek ways to enhance their food. These people are unlikely to develop obesity, because they would not consume more food than is necessary to maintain optimum bodily function.
In the thirteenth century, Maimonides stated that the majority of human ills come from unhealthy eating practices. Modern medical science substantiates his assertion. However, modern people, instead of developing more body-conscious eating habits, apply their genius to seeking ways to stuff themselves without becoming overweight.
It is a humbling thought that if humans did eat like animals, they would live longer and be healthier.
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Is Your Life Worth Thirty Feet??

“Last night a man tried to run across Zarzamora Street, a four (4) lane highway, against the light and not in the crosswalk.

He was thirty (30) feet from the crosswalk when he was hit and killed.  Continue reading


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The Top 10 Anti-Cancer Vegetables

If you or someone you love or know has been diagnosed with cancer, PLEASE forward this article to them a.s.a.p. It could save their life.

Blessings, Shalom and Love to you. ♥

Here’s a quote followed by the link:

“There are literally thousands of published peer-reviewed studies demonstrating that the 100,000+ phytonutrients in plants have the ability to prevent and reverse cancer.
But because the pharmaceutical industry can’t figure out how to extract these compounds, synthesize them, and patent them for profit, they are ignored.”  ~ Chris Wark

http://www.chrisbeatcancer.com/top-10-anti-cancer-vegetables/


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You Can Do It!

What an inspirational story! Wow! Nothing is impossible if you have drive, determination and passion. Let’s do it! Let’s go out there like Ruth did and make our dreams come true.

Action for Today:
It’s 2015.
If Ruth could do what she did, given her circumstances and beginning…
What can YOU do?

Take out a piece of paper and jot down three things that are stopping you.
Go ahead and do it.

Then, take that piece of paper, ball it up, and throw it away.
(light on fire for extra drama)
Everything on that paper is BS.

Here’s the bottom line: You can do it.

Your Daily Mentor,
-Darren


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To See or Not To See

When your fellow is but a mirror of yourself, and when he’s actually a window…

From Chabad.org – By Mendel Kalmenson

  
And Noah, the man of the earth, debased himself and planted a vineyard. He drank of the wine and became drunk, and he uncovered himself within his tent. And Ham, the father of Canaan, saw his father’s nakedness and told his two brothers outside. And Shem and Japheth took a garment, laid it upon both their shoulders, and they walked backwards, and covered their father’s nakedness; their faces were turned backward, and they saw not their father’s nakedness—Genesis 9:20-24.

What’s puzzling about this narrative is the seeming redundancy in its last verse: “Their faces were turned backward, and they saw not their father’s nakedness.” Isn’t it obvious that – unless possessing eyes in the back of their heads – if “their faces were turned backward,” “they saw not their father’s nakedness”?

Taking into account the Torah’s calculated use of words, we can only conclude that the apparent surplus of words is not, in fact, excessive, but is rather indicating something.

The Mirror

The holy Baal Shem Tov taught: “When you see ill in your friend, it is your own ill that you are observing.” Like a mirror that reflects nothing but what you place before it, so too what you see in your fellow reflects nothing but what you yourself possess.

In different words: People tend to project their own issues, shortcomings, deficiencies, and insecurities onto others, seeing in them exactly what they should rightfully be seeing, and working on, in themselves.

Is it always the case that when you see a flaw in someone else it is actually your own flaw you are seeing? Must that always be so?

The basis for this idea is quite simple.

The principle of Divine Providence dictates that not only is one’s every encounter orchestrated by G‑d, but that every encounter must benefit the one who experiences it. For if there was nothing in it for him, why would G‑d show it to him?

So, everything you come across – whatever, wherever, whenever, however, and in whomever – is all part of an ongoing conversation between G‑d and you. Your questions can be answered, and difficulties resolved, simply by walking down the street, sitting in the subway, or strolling in the park.

That is, so long as you are listening.

It stands to say, then, that if you were brought by Heaven to spot a fault in someone else, surely it is G‑d’s gentle way of telling you that it’s time for you to look inward.

But why say it indirectly, through the revelation of someone else’s faults? Why not just speak to you directly?

Unfortunately, that wouldn’t work too well, since we humans are naturally not good at accepting criticism. If we didn’t see it in someone else, we could never see it in ourselves.

Friendly Rebuke

Before entering the Baal Shem Tov’s “mirror principle” into my theological data base, one final challenge is left to be dealt with.

The principle’s underlying premise is Divine providence. If it weren’t relevant to me, G‑d wouldn’t cause me to see it. But couldn’t my seeing the lack in my friend simply be so that I can help him right his wrongs? Maybe that is why G‑d brought me to see his failing.

To be honest, the thought is comforting; not all of the bad which I see in others necessarily exists in me…

But that cannot be the case. For if, as I have suggested, at times the negativity I am shown in others is strictly so that I can set them straight, I wouldn’t be seeing negative in them; I would see only the need to fix.

I wouldn’t hear voices of judgment in my mind, but only a call for action.

Mirror or Window

Imagine you saw someone walk right past a sign that says in bold letters: Danger – Don’t Pass Beyond This Point. To the horror of everyone watching, the fellow loses his balance on some loose rocks, and begins to fall down a steep slope.

In those critical moments, when something might still be done to save him, would you busy yourself with thoughts of how big an idiot the guy must be?

Didn’t he see the sign? Did he think he was smarter than the experts who put it up? Does he think he’s superman?…

Or would you spring to action in the hope of saving a life?

These different reactions and attitudes accurately indicate whether or not what you see in others is a reflection of yourself.

If you find yourself judging, it is you who deserves to be judged. If you see your fellow as a defendant on trial, it is you who is being tried. Your friend is no more than a mirror—providing you with an objective view of yourself. In fact, he is deserving of your gratitude, for without him you would remain unacquainted with parts of yourself.

If, however, you saw this individual as a casualty in need, as someone you can help, you are looking at a window, not a mirror; a window of opportunity, transparent like glass.

Shut-Eye

And Noah, the man of the earth, debased himself and planted a vineyard. He drank of the wine and became drunk, and he uncovered himself within his tent.

There was no question that Noah messed up.

There was also no question that Noah needed help.

And Ham, the father of Canaan, saw his father’s nakedness and told his two brothers outside.

Ham chose to judge… and to report.

He didn’t choose to act.

To him, Noah served as a crystal clear mirror.

And Shem and Japheth took a garment, laid it upon both their shoulders, and they walked backwards, and covered their father’s nakedness.

Shem and Japheth chose to act.

Their faces were turned backward, and they saw not their father’s nakedness.

They didn’t judge. They didn’t see – i.e., contemplate – the fact that their father was naked.

To them Noah was a window.

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